Leaving The Hurt Behind

Alabama writer Rick Bragg told about speaking to a group of Southerners, mentioning to them that the South was wrong on the Civil War and on civil rights. One man rose from his seat and noisily left the lecture, his displeasure obvious. Bragg remarked that the 60s had been so long ago, he was surprised the man was still angry.

“Oh, no,” one of the man’s friends replied. “He’s still mad about the war.”

The Apostle Paul found himself amongst two angry women in Philippi. Their names were Euodia and Syntyche.

After founding the church in obedience to his call to Macedonia, the northernmost state in Greece, Paul wrote a letter to encourage the congregation. Philippians has been called “the joy letter” since his preeminent talking point was joy. This is even more striking when we realize Philippians is one of the four prison letters. It’s not often we find joy in jail. Nevertheless in encouraging the church, the writer felt compelled to identify these two women who weren’t getting along, insisting their discord was affecting the entire congregation.

It’s not like Euodia and Syntyche were evil women. They probably co-directed the woman’s missionary society and sang together in the church choir. But we remember them today because they were angry enough with one another to merit a “shout out” from the church’s founder. Since the letters of Paul were read aloud to the congregation, and then became circular letters shared with other churches, it’s interesting that the pettiness of these women became known to their church and other churches in the area, and to us 2000 years later.

We don’t know the nature of their disagreement. Paul didn’t mention the cause and may not have known it. Perhaps Euodia and Syntyche themselves had forgotten what they fought about.

I’ve heard a number of stories over the years from people who were angry with someone in their church. And often the explanations seem so inconsequential. One lady told me another family was displeased when her son won an award in high school rather than their son. This alleged slight occurred 20 years before. I’m not sure how she knew this, or why it mattered after so long. But it’s amazing how trivial some of the things are that separate us from one another.

In the same letter, Paul wrote, “Do all things without murmurings and disputings, that you may be blameless and harmless . . . in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom you shine as lights in the world” (Philippians 2: 14-15).

Our light is brighter when we learn to leave the hurt behind and live together in harmony as sons and daughters of God.

In Christ There Is No East Or West

It was a unique experience when Simon came to see me. “I’m Jewish, and I want to attend your church,” he said. “Is this alright?”

Simon explained that he’d married a Roman Catholic and they decided to compromise and come to Baptist worship.

 I’m not making this up, nor can I explain it! But, of course, I assured Simon he’d be welcomed any time the door was open. And he and his wife became faithful attenders.

I thought of this lately when reading again about the Jew and Gentile issue in the first century. These groups didn’t get along very well, and animosity and misunderstanding continued after the church was established. Some Jewish believers thought Gentiles (non-Jews) should convert to Judaism before coming to Christ. And some Jewish believers thought the Old Testament dietary laws, among others, should be brought into the church. The apostle Paul taught that we’re made right before God through faith, not through the law, and there is no distinction between Jew and Gentile. All are “one in Christ Jesus” (Galatians 3:11, 28).

It took the early church a little time before they “got it.”

It occurred to me that this issue isn’t an issue today. I don’t know of any Jew/Gentile controversy in our mostly Gentile churches.

My generation faced another issue: black and white.

He was a teacher in a local school. He told his students that he, an African-American man, wouldn’t be allowed to attend some of the churches in the city. The students disbelieved, so he decided to show them. The next Sunday he attempted to enter a church, but the ushers turned him away. The following Sunday he returned with a CNN camera crew! The church made headlines throughout the nation.

The pastor was my friend. I called to offer my support and see if I could help in any way. He’d long been a proponent of his church having an open door. He loved his people. He wanted the church to deal with the crisis appropriately and to move forward. With his prayerful leadership the church did so, and the issue became a non-issue. And I think the racial issue remains a non-issue for churches I know. We believe God is no respecter of persons and we must offer friendship to people from all ethnicities and nationalities. The church decries racism.

It occurred to me that my generation experienced a “fiery test” just like the early church did.

Now we move on to other challenges, such as regathering and ministering in days after COVID.

I’m grateful we serve a savior who recognizes that our minds and hearts sometimes fall short of truth, and who patiently leads us through every crisis.

What Is Heaven Like?

A mother wished to comfort her daughter when Fluffy, the family cat, died.

“Honey,” she said somberly. “Fluffy’s in heaven.”

“What’s God gonna’ do with a dead cat?” her daughter asked.

A common question we ask is “what is heaven like?” And many ideas have been proposed.

I heard a new idea once at a funeral. The officiating pastor noted the deceased’s love for the outdoors and insisted, “He’s now hunting and fishing in heaven.”

I remembered the joke Baptist music ministers used to tell about “I stand on Jordan’s stormy banks and cast”—stopping the lyrics at this point--as a way to acknowledge the importance of fishing. But this is only a joke.

And hunting? Isaiah said, “the wolf will lie down with the lamb,” so it’s hard to imagine animals being hunted in the new world (Isaiah 11:6). A gentle animal being shot would be like the recent death of Cecil, the lion, in Zimbabwe. I think the minister was simply using a metaphor about fulfillment.

Others insist all we’ll do is sing in heaven. Mark Twain once remarked that most people don’t like to sing, but insist they’ll sing for 1,000 years in heaven!

Of course the Bible teaches we’ll worship in heaven. We’ll praise the God who invited us there and thank him for his gift of eternal life. But worship isn’t all we’ll do in heaven, just as it’s not all we do on earth.

Part of our confusion about heaven, I think, is due to our misunderstanding about work. Some insist work is part of humanity’s curse due to sin, but a proper reading of Genesis reveals God assigned Adam work to do before he sinned. Work has always been God’s plan. He instructs us to seek and perform meaningful work in order to provide for our families, to invest in his kingdom and to help others.

We also bring honor to God by being good employees.

Scripture teaches one day we’ll “beat our swords into plowshares and spears into pruning hooks.” Whereas this prophecy primarily foretells a world without war, it’s noteworthy that plowshares and pruning hooks are agricultural tools.

I’m not sure what kind of work we’ll do in heaven, but the Bible certainly doesn’t tell us we’ll be sitting in easy chairs and clicking our remotes for eternity.

I believe heaven will be filled with surprises. The Apostle Paul said, “eye has never seen, nor has ear heard, what God has prepared for those who love him,” (1 Corinthians 2:9).

D. L. Moody observed, “God rightly tells us little about heaven. If we understood the glory of it, we‘d long for it so much we’d shirk our responsibilities on earth.”

His Eye Is On The Sparrow

It’s a book much in the news today, and I just plowed through it. I wouldn’t call it pleasure reading since it’s filled with the intricacies of international diplomacy and the unpronounceable names of prime ministers and kings. The author recounts disagreements with the president he served, including when the administration considered a retaliatory air strike after losing a drone. He wanted it, but the president decided no since there would be “150 body bags” on enemy territory and perhaps many of them innocent civilians. The toll was simply too much, and the plan was scrapped.

I’m certainly no military strategist, but I don’t think it’s always true we lose strategic advantage by showing respect for life.

My generation remembers the weekly “kill reports” from Vietnam. Nightly news anchors told the number of Americans killed and the number of enemy killed. Psychologists say we became jaded by these reports. The first few times we heard them we were struck with sadness. But human life became cheap.

We’ve heard chilling words from American cities in turmoil in recent weeks—people so enraged all they can think about is hurting innocent people and destroying their businesses. Human life is cheap.

And a friend involved in ministering to women ensnared in human trafficking stunned me with accounts of children kidnapped and abused, and all of this in the Bible Belt. Women become nothing more than toys for evil men. Human life is cheap.

It’s sad to see those who disrespect others through physical or verbal abuse, and those who disrespect themselves through addiction. Human life is cheap.

In contrast, Jesus talked about the value of every person. He said our heavenly father knows every sparrow that falls and knows about us because we’re worth more than sparrows. He said God understands the intimate details of our lives, even the number of hairs on our head. And Jesus further pronounced the human soul worth more than anything the world offers. If we lose our soul, we’ve given our lives to nothing at all worthwhile (Luke 10: 30-31, 39).

A fable tells about jealous rats scheming to destroy a beautiful songbird. They offered to bring the bird worms so he wouldn’t have to scavenge them himself.

“And it will only cost you one feather for one worm,” they said.

At the end of the day, the bird was so stuffed with worms he couldn’t sing, and so short of feathers he couldn’t fly away. The evil rats destroyed him.

How sad that people can trade their song for worms, too.

The Creator wants to fill our lives with his love so that we can love and serve others. Anything less is worth very little, indeed.

Stand Up, Stand Up For Jesus

One of our greatest fears is “glossophobia,” the fear of public speaking. One high-schooler explained his fear in a unique way.

“I think in my head that people in the audience focus on me and shoot negative gamma rays into my brain,” he wrote. “This is why I get nervous and mess up. It’s not my fault.”

I can’t vouch for the scientific reliability of his claim, but the fear is nonetheless real. Most of us experience it. The major reason we dread public speaking is the fear of what others think. That is, we think they think we’re not speaking clearly, not making sense or we’re dressed inappropriately. Thus our brains flood with negative thoughts. Others exercise power over us whether they intend or not.  

Most colleges require a public speaking course for two reasons. Most of us will do presentations throughout life and should have some familiarity with research and organization. Also we gain confidence in a supportive environment.

Interestingly, the Apostle Paul urged us to make a speech that could bring fearful consequences.

Paul planned to visit Rome and wrote the letter to the Romans as an introduction to his theology. In chapter 10 he insisted two things necessary for salvation: believing in our hearts in the risen Christ and declaring his lordship.

The foundation of our faith is the Easter event. Jesus’s resurrection validates his claims and the power of God. We yet talk about “heart-felt” belief. This belief leads to commitment when we acknowledge his lordship. Modern translations alter the familiar King James Version words a bit in Romans 10:9, and this rendering is closer to what Paul taught. Saving faith also means we declare with our lips, “Jesus is Lord.”

The unifying affirmations in the Roman Empire were “Caesar is lord” and “We have no king but Caesar.” Sometimes the Roman caesars claimed to be gods. Historians write about the cult of emperor worship. But followers of Jesus made a new commitment—not “Caesar is Lord,” but “Christ is Lord.”

We believe those in the assemblies who wished to follow Jesus stood and spoke this declaration. Then they were brought to baptism and instructed in discipleship.

Roman citizens knew their lordship transfer could bring dire consequences since Christianity came to be viewed as a threat to the Empire. Followers of Christ were arrested, and many were martyred because of their new allegiance.

Our commitment to his lordship may bring sobering consequences, too. Christians are called to a new standard of belief and practice that may go against the grain of public opinion. But there’s no other option. The old adage is “Christ will be lord of all, or he won’t be lord at all.”

Being Out-Of-Step

It was an embarrassing halftime show when the entire Minor High School Marching Tiger Band was out-of-step. It was especially embarrassing for us in the percussion section since a major part of our job was keeping everybody in step.

Our band director decided we’d play the theme from “Mission Impossible.” The music wasn’t especially difficult, as I recall, other than the rhythm. Most marching bands play 4/4 (common) time since it’s easy to remember left-right-left-right. But “Mission Impossible” is 5/4 time so it was like we had something different in our head: left-right-left-right-right.

I’m not sure why our director didn’t pull the song and substitute something else. Perhaps he hoped it would come together on Friday. Alas, it didn’t.

This wasn’t the only time in my life I’ve been out-of-step.

But being “out-of-step” can be a good thing or a bad thing.

For example, it can be a bad thing on the job. Employers rightly expect employees to work together harmoniously. Even if they have personality differences or conflicting work habits, employees are mandated to find middle ground for the good of the company. Furthermore, employees must be willing to promote the product. An employee can’t afford to tell others not to buy the car they make, or not to eat at the restaurant in which they cook or serve.

I once knew a music minister who said he wouldn’t attend Sunday evening worship if he’d not been expected to because of his position. We had a serious talk about loyalty, as well as his role in worship planning.

Sometimes “out-of-step” is a good thing. Employees can offer critiques that bring about needed change. They lobby for improvements in product or management. Of course, this assumes company management is willing to listen to employees. I’ve known a few organizations where suggestions for improvement were considered insubordination by prideful or insecure owners and management. But usually the old-fashioned “suggestion box” can bring some good ideas.

Christians are labeled “out-of-step” in scripture. The Living Bible renders Romans 12:2, “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world but be a new and different person with a fresh newness in all you do and think.”

This kind of “newness,” involving holy living, helping the poor and seeking peace, was seen as a threat to the Roman Empire. Rome demanded the highest loyalty from her citizens. “Caesar is Lord” was the unifying creed. Nero ordered the first wide-spread persecution of the followers of Jesus. We believe Peter and Paul were both martyred under Nero, along with others. These deaths were for the crime of being out-of-step with the emperor.

God yet commands Christians to listen to him and be in step with his purposes.

On Musing

Years ago churches recorded their pastors’ sermons on reel-to-reel tape, then later on cassettes. These often gathered dust, but many of us feared one day they’d be replayed, and we’d be embarrassed by yesteryear’s foolishness!

One of the reasons for this is how my denomination commissions preachers. A young man comes forward to share with the church the call of God, and the pastor says, “Fine. Preach for us next Sunday.” In my case, I was a junior in high school and didn’t know much about life. But I began to get busy preaching here and there and by age 19, was associate pastor of a local church. I thought I knew a lot, but actually I knew less than I thought I did.

I came across a new word for “inaccuracies” lately, thanks to Dr. Deborah Birx, the woman Rush Limbaugh calls “the Scarf Queen.” When asked about the president’s sometimes inaccurate statements regarding COVID-19, she said his statements were often “musings,” and he shouldn’t be held to a rigid standard for sharing his unfiltered thoughts.

All of us pastors have “mused” before. Even the Apostle Paul did.

In 1 Corinthians 7:6 Paul shared his desire for Christians to remain unmarried, as he was, so as not to hinder their devotion in serving the Lord. We believe Paul’s judgment was conditioned by his belief in the imminent return of Christ. He wrote in 1 Thessalonians 4 about “we who are alive at his coming” (v. 15). Since he believed the Lord was returning soon, he counseled men and women to refrain from marriage. He said, “I say this not by commandment but by permission,” or “by concession” as other translations render. He underscored this was not a command from God, but rather his opinion.

This makes me feel better since I’ve often offered opinions in areas without clear biblical guidance. I think many of us do.

I took a light-hearted poll recently in our congregation about raising teens. I asked the parents who told their teens, “clean your room or you don’t eat,” to raise their hands, and then the group who said, “if you’re going to live in filth, at least keep your door shut,” to raise their hands. We all had a laugh, but I think it illustrated that good people often disagree in some areas in which there’s no clear biblical instruction.

I look back with gratitude to the faithful Christians over the years who trusted me with their pulpits, despite some occasional musings that may not have been artfully spoken. I’m still grateful for those who give me this opportunity every week. I hope I’ve learned from Paul to distinguish between God’s word and mine.

What A Fellowship, What A Joy Divine

“Back-to-school” was always a sad time for me as a child. The “lazy, hazy, crazy days of summer” was a time to sleep late, to visit with cousins and to read. But, alas, September neared. In those days we reconvened after Labor Day. Then my mom came into my room every morning singing, “School days, school days, good ‘ol golden rule days.” How I hated that song!

But the routine resumed, and most of us boys and girls enjoyed learning new things and making new friends in the new term.

This year our children face unique challenges. The COVID-19 pandemic has forced delays in many school systems, alterations in others and in some cases both. Many children will be shepherded online by their teachers—an innovation we never would’ve imagined in my days of public school.

Many of our churches have gone online, too. I talked with a proud mother recently who now watches two broadcasts on Sunday mornings. One is from the church of her pastor-son in North Carolina and the other is from the church of her music minister-son in Colorado.

Denominational leaders are suggesting churches consider “both/and” when the COVID days are finally past; that is, we continue to broadcast while we gather in person. One Sunday School conference leader said he plans to continue his Zoom broadcast on his laptop while he teaches in his regular classroom. This may be the “new norm” in churches.

One of our members jokingly told about how she enjoyed the “at home” experience.

“I can sit on the couch and watch church and eat potato chips,” she said.

At least she’s “watching church”!

But she did highlight an issue with home church—engagement. It’s easy to be distracted at home.

Another issue is fellowship. The New Testament word is “koinonia,” and it speaks of the relationship believers have with one another. We gather as brothers and sisters in the Lord to study, to worship, to pray and to strategize for ministry in our world. This task is more difficult in the broadcast world. The internet tends to isolate us from one another, and perhaps draws us away from our shared mission.

In the days when televangelism was new, one TV preacher used to call himself “your TV pastor.” The late J.D. Gray, pastor of the First Baptist Church of New Orleans, countered, “Pshaw! No man can pastor a church by remote control!”

It remains to be seen how the current way of limited gatherings and livestreaming will impact us in the future. But we must never lose sight of the importance of relationships.

The family of God gathers in the name of Christ to worship and serve him in partnership.

A Little Bit Of Civility

I attended a denominational event in Richmond several years ago and took an extra day for sightseeing, including the Confederate White House Jefferson Davis used after he moved from Montgomery. We saw the executive office where President Lincoln sat in triumph on April 4, 1865 after the rebel evacuation, and five days before Gen. Lee surrendered the Army of Northern Virginia.

And the guide showed us the second-floor window from which five-year-old Joseph Davis fell to his death in 1864. Presidents Lincoln and Davis exchanged condolence letters reflecting on Joseph’s death and 11-year-old Willie Lincoln’s death in 1862—a little bit of civility in the midst of  bloody conflict.

The guide also mentioned that President Jimmy Carter restored Davis’s citizenship in 1978. I hadn’t known this and did some research for an article in a hobby newsletter.

The Carter Presidential Library confirmed it was a congressional initiative—not a presidential initiative—but Carter signed the bill as soon as it was delivered to the Oval Office.

Sen. Trent Lott was the main instigator of the citizenship initiative. A member of the U.S. House of Representatives in the 70s, Lott represented Mississippi’s Fifth Congressional District including Davis’s retirement home in Biloxi. The resolution restored Davis’s citizenship effective on Christmas, 1868.

An impetus to this act was the restoration of citizenship to Gen. Robert E. Lee.

Lee applied for reinstatement in 1865. He died in 1870 and his request gathered dust in a Washington archive before being rediscovered 100 years later. Sen. Robert Byrd of West Virginia introduced a resolution to restore Lee’s citizenship, and President Ford signed it into law in 1975.

Carter noted Davis’s record of service in his remarks at the signing ceremony: “[Davis] served the United States long and honorably as a soldier, Member of the U.S. House and Senate and Secretary of War.”

“Our Nation needs to clear away the guilts and enmities and recriminations of the past, to finally set at rest the divisions that threatened to destroy our Nation and to discredit the principles on which it was founded,” Carter said. “Our people need to turn their attention to the important tasks that still lie before us in establishing those principles for all people.”

Two U.S. presidents, one Republican and one Democrat, one from Michigan and one from Georgia, in effect issued pardons to the two primary leaders of the Confederate government. Their acts of civility bespoke hope that we be one nation under God.

Our republic, currently torn by division, can learn from these two presidents.

We should set aside animosity and seek a little bit of civility.

The Apostle Paul wrote, “Insomuch as possible, live at peace with all men” (Romans 12: 18).

Teaching Students God's Way

I saw Carl a few years ago after not having seen him for a long time. We had a pleasant conversation though I remembered a bit of unpleasantness we’d had when I’d been his pastor. It had to do with sex.

Even the word itself is sometimes shocking in the context of church matters. But we believers insist God is the author of sex and that the only thing wrong with it is when people pervert his plans and purposes.

One of the youth leaders we had in our church at the time said he wanted to schedule six Sunday evenings and teach psychologist Dr. James Dobson’s “Preparing For Adolescence” to the middle and high-schoolers. This book was published in 1980 and is still widely-used. Dobson has always been an outspoken proponent of biblical values and pro-life causes. He remains a hero to many of us.

The teacher reminded me that Dobson had a chapter on sexuality and a paragraph explaining what the sex act is. I suggested we send a letter to the parents and tell them what we had in mind and invite their comments. No one commented, so the series was scheduled with a number of adult helpers present in each session.

A few weeks later I noticed Carl on a Sunday morning making his way to one deacon and then another, showing them a document he had. After the service I learned he’d photocopied the infamous paragraph from Dobson’s book and angrily told the deacons, “This is what they’re teaching in our youth department!”

I called Carl that afternoon and asked him about the matter. I reminded him that a letter had gone to his house. He said he’d overlooked it. I offered to get the teacher and church leaders in a room and discuss the matter with him. He agreed to the meeting but didn’t come. Gathered leaders affirmed what the teacher was doing and thanked him for his efforts.

I remembered this experience lately and thought how different things are now. Then we didn’t have the Internet. Today our youth are confronted with vile images on computer, phone or tablet, unless we parents take steps to filter the feed. And I would argue that a Christian gentleman like Dr. Dobson is a much better purveyor of life, health and peace than the online suppliers of degradation.

I believe today’s church has grown more forthright in speaking God’s truth, even in sensitive areas. And I hope that parents see the church as an ally in praying for their children and teaching them about God’s way vs. the world’s way.

Jesus said the former leads to abundance and the latter leads to disappointment (Matthew 7: 13-14).

The Shoes Of Peace

A familiar New Testament image is the Christian soldier in Ephesians 6, modeled after the Roman soldier. Paul was in prison so there were probably many soldiers nearby. Some believe the apostle in his confinement was actually chained to a soldier. In this chapter he described how a soldier in the Lord’s army would dress, including the breastplate of righteousness, the helmet of salvation and the sword. He likened the Roman sword to the “sword of the Spirit,” or the word of God.

The sword was the only offensive weapon Paul mentioned, and the weapon Jesus used  three times to combat Satan’s temptations.

It’s interesting to me that this man of combat wore the shoes of peace (v. 15). This seems contradictory at first since a warrior isn’t usually charged to be a peace-keeper. But since the only offensive weapon is the Word of God and every other piece of armor is defensive, it makes sense that the Christian warrior can speak God’s truth, walk in peace and be a welcomed presence in the world.

The Christian is to seek peace among the nations. We live in a broken world, to be sure, and wars continue, but a Christian is called to make peace. Jesus pronounced a blessing on peacemakers (Matthew 5:9).

I asked some senior adults in our church for their insight in the 90s when the Desert Storm conflict was imminent. I asked how they prayed during World War II. They told me how they prayed for their husbands and brothers on the battlefield and for a swift end to hostilities.

“Did you pray for Adolph Hitler, too?” I added.

“We certainly did,” they said. “We prayed that God would change his heart and that he would end this madness.”

A Christian is to seek peace in the community as well.

Many of us have seen “neighborhood wars” when residents practice a “tit for tat” kind of thing over some offense and engage in constant bickering. We know families broken by divorce who end up living in hostility. And some families not broken by divorce also live in conflict; sometimes because of inheritance issues. A little bit of money can change someone into a bitter person.

 And of course we’ve seen pettiness in churches, too—most of the time over minor things unrelated to the major mission of God’s church. We have to keep our mission in focus. As Ron Lewis said so well, “The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing!”

 The Christian soldier is not a threat to others. He follows in the steps of the Prince of Peace. He is a welcomed presence bringing goodwill wherever he or she may travel.

Senior Adults Are A Church's Treasure

I thought it would be a snap to trim a few dead tree branches, but the ladder slipped and so did I. Fortunately, it was only a six-foot ladder and I didn’t fall far. I ended up with only a few scrapes. I remembered a warning an electrician in our church gave me a few years ago. I told him about replacing the outdoor bulbs with the 20-foot ladder and asked him about some issue with the fixture. He told me NEVER to get on a ladder by myself. I should’ve listened, but I promise I will from now on.

Someone compiled a humorous list of the advantages of getting older. I remember several of them. One is “You’re the first to be released in a hostage situation.” Another is “You don’t have to buy new books since you forgot what’s in the old ones.” And another is “There’s nothing left to learn the hard way.”

Ancient Israel revered the elders of the land. They often served as a civil court who met near the city gate. To fill this position was an honor. Pastors often quip when they preach about the godly woman of Proverbs 31 that all her husband did was “sit at the gate” (Proverbs 31: 23). But his service to the community was valuable, and it was made possible because his wife was so efficient at taking care of the home.

The book of Proverbs is filled with admonitions for the young to learn from the elders about the promises and pitfalls in life.

The New Testament also speaks about elders. The Apostle Paul ordained elders to guide new churches. Evangelicals disagree on the meaning of this office. Elders in the Presbyterian church are largely laymen who make major decisions for the congregation. Sometimes they’re called “ruling elders.” The pastor himself is a “teaching elder.” Baptists generally believe “elder” is a synonym for “pastor” since the latter word was uncommon in the first century, used only once in the New Testament (Ephesians 4: 11).

However, some Baptist churches are instituting the office of elder now in the Presbyterian model.

One Baptist pastor wrote about how he met resistance when he wished to form a board of elders. He decided instead to call them pastors and nobody got upset!

The point of eldership in the New Testament is the same as in the Old Testament. These are men (and in some cases women) of wisdom who can help the church in her mission. The senior adults in our churches are a valued resource. They’ve learned some hard lessons in life. They’ve also witnessed the faithfulness of God from generation to generation. We need to listen to them.

When People Walk Away From Church

“Apostasy” isn’t a word my denomination uses much, probably because we don’t believe in it. Many evangelicals hold to the fifth tenet of John Calvin’s TULIP acronym (perseverance) and insist that a genuinely converted person won’t lose salvation. But it’s true we witness people who walk away from Christian commitment for a season, or forever.

I saw this for the first time as a teen-ager. Bobby and his wife were leaders in another church, but their ministry touched young people in surrounding churches. Bobby worked with a relative who put me in contact with him as a youth speaker, so I was in his church several times for events. On one visit the pastor said, “I don’t know what’s wrong with Bobby. We’ve not seen him in weeks and he won’t tell me what’s wrong.”

A friend and I went to Bobby’s house and, indeed, he wouldn’t talk about it. His wife sat there in tears. We assured him of our love and prayers, but I don’t know how this experience worked out since I moved away to college shortly thereafter and didn’t see Bobby again.

I’ve seen similar situations in the ensuing years, and each one has been heartbreaking.

I’m convinced there can be a spiritual component to walk-aways. Some believe this is what the disciples did in John 21 when they returned to fishing; in effect, they resigned. Jesus came to the seashore and gently prodded them and their leader, Simon Peter, into rededication.

My experience is that most often interpersonal relationships are a major factor when people leave unhappily.

Sometimes couples experience conflict that affects their church life. Wise spouses realize the value of their investment in each other.

A pastor shocked a couple when he suggested their issues were beyond his expertise and they needed a professional who would charge a fee. They said they couldn’t afford a counselor.

“If you had cancer, could you afford treatment?” he asked.

He meant that a sick marriage, like a sick body, might need professional help for proper healing.

Sometimes walk-aways are in conflict with other church members. We’d like to think that congregational life is a slice of heaven, and it is in many ways. But just as in basketball, elbows are thrown, intentionally or not, and people get hurt. The old church covenant has wise counsel: “to be slow to take offense, but always ready for reconciliation, and mindful of the rules of our Savior to secure it without delay.”

I’ve always believed that sincere believers with a genuine love for God can find a path to reconciliation. The church is in the redemption business, and sometimes this means restoring to useful service those who’ve dropped out.

A Question Of Loyalty

It was a brush with fame, albeit a momentary one.

We attended a denominational convention years ago in Pittsburgh, and my wife and I decided to return through Washington, D.C. for a few days. We took our daughter, who was not quite four years old at the time. I was climbing the steps at the U.S. Capitol to meet them after parking the car when President Reagan’s Director of the Office of Management and Budget, David Stockman, came rushing past me with a few companions. They sped away in a waiting limousine, after, I assume, meeting with members of Congress or testifying before a committee.

Stockman is probably best remembered for telling “The Atlantic Monthly” that the administration’s budget numbers were unworkable. Many Reaganites thought he’d be fired, but the president instead “took him to the woodshed.” In 1986 Stockman wrote about his experiences in a book titled, “The Triumph of Politics—Why The Reagan Revolution Failed.” I remember reading this volume at the time since I enjoy presidential history (whether I agree with the politics or not).

But Stockman wasn’t the only Reagan appointee to write a negative book. Former Secretary of the Treasury and White House Chief-of-Staff, Don Regan, wrote “For The Record” in 1988. Regan wasted no time snipping at Mrs. Reagan whom he believed was instrumental in his dismissal. On page one he revealed that the first lady consulted an astrologer in scheduling events for her husband. Later the astrologer herself, Joan Quigley, wrote “What Does Joan Say?” about her relationship with the president’s wife.

Mrs. Reagan admitted she sought Quigley’s help due to recurrent anxieties after the 1981 assassination attempt.

The political world is abuzz with discussions about a new “tell-all” released this week by a former Trump official, but this kind of thing is really nothing new.

Whether books like these demonstrate freedoms under the First Amendment, or whether they demonstrate disloyalty, is debated. But loyalty is certainly a spiritual issue.

It was a sobering moment when would-be followers departed after Jesus spoke about the cost of discipleship. He somewhat plaintively said to the twelve, “Will you also go away?” (John 6: 67).

Jesus was concerned about genuineness. He was concerned about commitment. He was concerned about loyalty.

A commitment to Christ is the commitment of one’s life. We used to sing an old hymn: “Arise to dare and do, ring out the watchword true, of loyalty, loyalty, yes, loyalty to Christ.” It’s obvious that some come to faith flaming with enthusiasm and later flame-out. The reasons are legion, but no matter the cause, committing less than our best isn’t good enough. Another old hymn promises, “We will be true to thee ‘til death.”

We Sure Could Use A Little Good News

Anne Murray remains among my favorite musicians (and I trust she celebrated a happy 75th birthday last week). Her first song I remember is “Snowbird” when I was in college. Then she recorded one of the most beautiful duets ever with Glen Campbell in 1971: “I Say A Little Prayer” and “By The Time I Get to Phoenix.” But I remember her most for “A Little Good News.” This song tells about “the fighting in Lebanon” and “somebody takes a hostage, somebody steals a plane.” The tag line is “Sure could use / a little good news / today.” Murray’s song was number one on the charts for 20 weeks.

Though this song was recorded in 1983, the refrain is as appropriate in 2020 as it was so long ago.

So much of what we hear today is bad news. The COVID-19 virus sent our nation reeling economically. The strong economy and low unemployment we had at the beginning of the year is now radically changed. We all know those who’ve lost jobs and others whose hours or salaries have been cut. 

The COVID-19 virus sent our nation reeling socially. We’ve been locked away from friends and family for three months.

Churches are busy writing guidelines to keep our people safe while moving forward in regathering plans. It’s understandable that those most “at risk” are reluctant to congregate at this point, but we also fear the effects of long-term enforced smaller-occupancy and the restriction of ministries in our communities. Ministers used to spend many hours each week in hospitals, retirement facilities and home visits, but the virus contagion has stopped this for now. And though most of us have found ways to broadcast worship online, we miss the human touch.

I joked to our congregation lately that the biblical word for fellowship, “koinonia,” now means “six feet apart.” But we laugh so we won’t cry.

Then an untimely and unnecessary death in Minneapolis created a widespread reaction—some of it bringing healthy discussion, and some of it bringing terrible violence and destruction. How we long for voices like Dr. King’s when he dreamt all men will “sit down together at the table of brotherhood.”

Someone suggested one of the greatest words in the Bible is, “and it came to pass.” Though probably not intended as a guiding principle for life, this phrase is nonetheless true. Nothing lasts forever. We hope the next few months will bring relief and COVID-19 will simply be a bad memory. And we hope men and women of goodwill, inspired by God, can find common ground in making our nation better for our children and grandchildren.

This is the good news we sure could use today.

He Found God

Some skate-boarders discovered our church parking lot, and some young men our basketball goal, and this is fine. I’m glad we can share with them in these days of summer boredom.

I saw the hoop-shooters one Saturday when I was in the office and felt the need to offer a cup of water in Jesus’s name. “I’m about to close the building,” I said. “Do you guys want to use the water cooler before I go?” They thanked me but showed me they were self-contained with their own cooler of water. At least now we can be friends in the weeks ahead. Good kids.

This event reminded me of another so long ago. My best friend from high school and college served part-time at a church in the city. They, likewise, had groups of kids who came to “shoot hoops” in their parking lot. But these kids were of another race and leaders labeled them a nuisance, so the deacons met and decided to take down the backboard. My friend was so disillusioned that he didn’t remain in the position long after this.

Racism is in the news today, and it’s a “no-brainer” that people of God must deplore it. Many of us were taught to sing as children, “Red and yellow, black and white, they are precious in his sight.”  Sometimes we describe God as “colorblind,” and though this is theologically impossible, it’s a good model for us mere mortals to follow.

He had the reputation as a tough law enforcement officer who gave no quarter. We talked once about his being on the Edmund Pettus Bridge in Selma on March 7, 1965. He told me he was choking on tear gas while angrily swinging his billy club trying to hurt somebody. I was shocked because the giant of a man who stood before me had the heart of a lamb. Senior ladies and small children loved him for his tenderness and servant’s heart. I never saw him being anything other than respectful to any person of another race. It’s hard to believe the unrestrained anger he’d had on that memorable day.

And then he told me what happened. “I found God,” he said. His experience was possibly akin to Paul’s on the Damascus Road, though my friend didn’t describe a bright light and a heavenly voice. His lifepath, however, was radically changed.

Years later I conducted his funeral. I told some stories about our friendship, including this one.

It would require more time and ink to discuss why some deacons in Birmingham harbored racism when a Dallas County cop left it behind. But it’s true the God of the Bible is yet in the business of changing hearts.

Dealing With Our Anger

An old adage is that anger is one only letter away from danger. This is a good reminder for us all. Everyone of us has done or said things in anger that we came to regret and wished to recall. That’s why it’s so unusual that the Apostle Paul exhorted believers to “be angry” (Ephesians 4:26). The writer didn’t offer further rationale, so we’re left to speculate about his intent. Was he simply acknowledging that we do get angry, and that there might be more positive ways to handle it?

I’ve heard some insist that anger is a sin and we must avoid it altogether. The truth is we can’t avoid it, and Mark’s gospel acknowledges Jesus was angry on at least three occasions. So, anger can’t be a sin. But anger can be channeled in a positive direction.

It’s certainly true that anger can motivate us to do things of value for ourselves and others.

I often think of three people who faced terrible tragedies and used their experiences to improve our world.

John Walsh endured the horror of his son Adam’s kidnapping and murder in 1981. Walsh and his wife directed their anger into a number of areas to protect children. President George W. Bush signed the “Adam Walsh Child Protection and Safety Act” in 2006, and many retail outlets have a “Code Adam” when a child is missing or found by store officials.

Candy Lightner was horrified in 1980 when her 13-year-old daughter, Cari, was killed by a drunk driver. The driver actually drove onto the sidewalk where the girl was, and the driver had previous citations for drunk driving. Lightner founded “Mothers Against Drunk Driving,” an organization that has saved countless lives.

Recently we observed a sad anniversary. Natalee Holloway was last seen alive on May 30, 2005—fifteen years ago—and her disappearance has never been satisfactorily explained. Her mother, Beth, has spent the last years talking with young people about “safe travels” and making good decisions when they’re away from home.

Anger can be terribly destructive. It can lead to abuse and even death. But these families were motivated by anger to do something positive and constructive. It’s arguable that every social movement in history has properly-channeled anger at its core.

Paul must have had this mind when he wrote his imperative.

But he also gave a qualifier: “don’t let the sun go down on your wrath.” Unresolved anger is the root of many physical and mental problems. Our bodies weren’t meant to be depositories of anger. We have to deal with it constructively or it will destroy us, and perhaps others.

God give us wisdom to use anger in positive, not negative ways.

Absolute Truth

I shared with a friend that I’d received a request to write a 750-word  article for a denominational magazine called “Standing on Truths: The Case for Absolute Truths.” My friend and I agreed we seem to hold fewer absolutes than we did when we were younger, and he told me I should write “there are no absolute truths” 150 times to fulfill the word count! Of course, he was joking. But this is an intriguing assignment.

What are the most basic absolute truths in life? I’ve been thinking of several.

First, all of us are broken. The Apostle Paul said it succinctly: “All have sinned and fallen short of God’s plan” (Romans 3:23). The God who made us gave us rules to follow, and these rules ensure our happiness. Alas, just like our first parents in Eden, we believe God’s not really serious and we try to find another way. Our wrong choices impact our fellowship with God and with one another.

Second, God’s love for us is constant. Though we’ve chosen to disobey him, he continues to speak to us. The scripture says he speaks to us by creation, by his prophets and by his word. He speaks to us most clearly in his son. “While we were still living in disobedience, God sent his son,” Paul continued in Romans 5:8. In other words, God doesn’t decree we “turn over a new leaf” or leave our evil behind; he seeks us in the midst of our disobedience to offer forgiveness and a change of nature.

Third, humanity is accountable. When we accept God’s forgiveness, we’re instructed to live our lives in his service. He has given gifts to each of us for service, and each gift is unique. We must discover and use our gifts. And we must refuse to compare what we have with somebody else, though we’re all prone to do this. The old spiritual says, “If you can’t pray like Peter / if you can’t preach like Paul / You can tell the love of Jesus / and say he died for all.”

A mentor said to our youth group many years ago, “God made only one Billy Graham since he needed only one. He made you, too, and you can make a difference.”

Part of accountability is the promise that one day we’ll stand before God when the judgment books will be opened. One Bible teacher insisted this reference to books is a metaphor since God doesn’t need to write anything. He believed this refers simply to the mind of God. Whatever the case, on that day of accounting we want to hear words of commendation from the God we’ve served with our whole heart.

Of Leaders and Lords

Christian tradition says the Apostle Peter was pastor of the Christian church in Rome. He preached the gospel and went about doing good before Nero’s persecution claimed his life. It’s believed Peter was crucified head down when he declared himself unworthy to be killed as Jesus was.

As a pastor, Peter counseled other pastors to be good shepherds. “Don’t serve God for unworthy motives, such as money, but from a heart of love,” he said. “And don’t ‘lord’ it over the church but be examples of Christ-like living” (1 Peter 5 paraphrase).

As a young pastor I heard a number of influential conference speakers who insisted the pastor was God’s vice-regent charged with disseminating the will of God to the people. “You must make them hear and follow you,” they said.

Whereas this statement is true, it’s not the whole truth. Members of the church can and should be involved in discovering the will of God for their congregations. After all, the pastor needs others to be committed to this work since he can’t do it all himself. People “buy in” when they feel they’ve been heard and their opinions are valued.

It’s also true that people grow in their personal leadership skills when given opportunity to be involved in decision-making. It’s a positive thing when the pastor asks others, “What do you think?” Group discussion is cumbersome and time-consuming, but studies show better decisions are made by group process.

Businesses are different from churches, of course, since business leaders have “the power of the purse.” They’re charged to make the organization successful, to produce a product and to generate profit for owners or stock-holders. Thus employees must do what the CEO says. A common refrain often spoken at one organization was, “he IS the president,” meaning everybody does what he says without question or you’re gone!

Churches, however, are different. People attend and participate because they choose to, and they serve as volunteers because they choose to.

I’ve known a few pastors who’ve tried to “fire” members whom they thought were out-of-step, but members are added by congregational vote in many of our denominational systems. Pastors must develop good people skills and try to work with everyone. And today it’s less common for people to belong to a church for 40 or 50 years--they come and go with more frequency due to worship styles and programs. Thus another task is to incorporate new people in mission.

Leadership is influence. Pastors should strive to influence their people to do life-changing ministry and should seek consensus, if possible.

Wise pastors seek to love and lead the sheep under their watch, knowing they’ll give account one day to the Great Shepherd.

Living Betwen Habakkuk and Romans

We brought church leaders together to decide a way forward, as many congregations are doing these days. One leader earlier told me plainly, “I’m depressed.” I’m grateful he felt comfortable to tell me his honest feelings, knowing I wouldn’t quickly condemn him as unspiritual. His admission gave me a little more freedom to share my feelings at the public meeting. I told attendees I found myself somewhere between Habakkuk and Romans.

Habakkuk is known as the earnest questioner of the Old Testament. He first asked the Lord if he knew how sinful his people were, though it’s somewhat brazen to ask God if he’s overlooked something in his world! The Lord responded that he knew his people’s sin and planned to raise up Babylon to punish them. Habakkuk complained a second time, saying in effect, “Lord, they’re more sinful than us!” The Lord assured his prophet that Babylon, too, would be punished at some point (Habakkuk 1-2).

I was looking forward to a good Spring season in our church. We baptized in January and February, had two Bible classes clambering for more chairs and welcomed several new families who brought unique contributions to our congregation. We adopted an outreach program asking everyone to focus on “their one” for prayer and invitations in the Easter season. It was a time of excitement.

Then the bottom dropped out. Community contact was restricted, and we’ve not had public worship since March 15. And I find many church members in one of two camps. The first group says, “ignore the torpedoes; full speed ahead!” They believe the government can’t tell us what to do and we need to press on in public meetings. Group two is afraid of returning due to virus contagion. 

Most pastors find themselves in this predicament today. Leadership is tougher than I can remember, and it’s futile to think we’ll find a way to please everybody. As one of our state missionaries said lately, “If you want to make everyone happy, sell ice cream. But if you’re out of my favorite, you won’t make me happy.”

We may find ourselves questioning the ways of God, asking “why?” as Habakkuk did.

But deep in our hearts we know the triumph of Romans 8. The Apostle Paul said, “We are more than conquerors through him that loved us so,” and “everything works together to bring good for those who are called to do God’s purpose.”

One day we’ll look back on this pandemic with clearer vision. We’ll see how God guided and protected his church, making her greater than ever before. As television preacher Rex Humbard used to say, “Often we see the plan of God more clearly through the rear-view mirror.”